Recently, I’ve tried to be pro-active about my relationship status by talking/dating girls. Now the following is nothing new, but it is very confusing, and I totally fail to understand why this is the case: availability = disinterest.

A few girls that I’ve got talking to, we’ve had a whole bunch of things in common, we laugh at the same things, listen to similar music and generally get along. So I show some interest, and by virtue of this they don’t like me. At the same time, there are some others, that probably see the whole commonality thing going on between me and them and show their interest… I lose all interest in them.

WHO WROTE THIS LOGIC?

A few years ago I got involved in personal development of my dating technique and it was great, I had great success with getting affection, but at the same time made me totally numb to feeling anything for the poor girls I dated, so I soon after stopped.

The problem now is that, despite knowing a bunch of stuff about attracting people to me, I have a problem of ethics. I’d rather someone like me for me (that I liked), than for a manipulation of truths and a total focus of reading reactions and vibing off of it. However, it doesn’t seem like te people I like, like me for who I am, which then leads me to ask many more questions about whether I should change for them or just go for the people who like me. In either event I’d not be happy.

What’s with this illogical system?